This is a re-land of #31561, after fixing performance regressions.
Added change listening to the MouseTracker so that the Listener and tooltip can react to whether or not a mouse is connected at all. Added a change check to make sure Listener only repaints when something changed.
Fixes#22817
* Return null from VM.mainView if no view exists
* Retry in connectToServiceProtocol if a view is not yet available
* Do not explicitly call exit from the benchmarks - it will not cleanly shut down the engine
